KOMPAS.com – Fall in love is an extraordinary mystery and researchers have been trying to unravel it for a long time.
1. Assume a partner is a special person
Being in love makes us think that this person is special and the only one for us.
According to Helen Fisher, an anthropologist from Rutgers University, this thought is caused by the increase in dopamine centers in the brain when falling in love.
To note, dopamine is a chemical that is involved in concentration and focus.
2. Focus on positive things only
Falling in love also makes a person blind, seeing only the positive side of their partner and ignoring the negative side. People who are in love also often hear about their partners and memories with their partners.
This is caused by an increase in central dopamine and norepinephrine. To note, norepinephrine is associated with improved memory when new stimuli are present.
3. Similar to a drug addict
Falling in love can make someone feel like they’re hooked on drugs. Emotions can change drastically; and irrational emotional dependence arises, even after being rejected.
The similarities have been confirmed by researchers in the laboratory. When shown photos of loved ones, participants’ brains were found to light up in the same parts as addicts who were using drugs.
In other studies published in Journal of Neurophysiology In 2010, Fisher and colleagues tried to see participants’ brains when shown pictures of loved ones who had rejected them.
The fMRI imaging results show the presence of activation of several brain areas, including the cingulate gyrus, which plays an important role in cocaine dependence.
4. Intrusive mindset
Fisher says that people who are in love spend an average of 85 percent of their waking time thinking about their loved ones.
Obsessive behavior known as intrusive thinking is caused by a decrease in central serotonin, which functions to provide a sense of comfort and pleasure, in the brain.
5. Losing control
Fisher and colleagues found that participants who were in love often admitted that their feelings were out of control. This finding is in line with the findings of psychologist Dorothy Tennov.
Published in books Love and Limerence In 1979, Tennov, who interviewed 400 men and women in Connecticut, found that many participants felt like they could do nothing, and that their obsessions were irrational and uncontrollable.