On November 13, the first weekend after the police removed the police line in an alleyway in Itaewon, citizens pass through an alleyway next to the Hamilton Hotel in Itaewon, Yongsan-gu, Seoul. Senior Reporter Kang Chang-gwang [email protected]
*Editor: heard about the situation Kim Cho-rong (32), a survivor of the Itaewon disaster on the 6th, experienced at the time and the psychological counseling process afterwards. The records of her counseling and her diary, which Mr. Kim serialized on the Internet community, are transferred in turn with the consent of the parties. On the night of the 29th, the day of the accident, she visited Itaewon with her friend and was swept away by the crowds, but a bystander pulled her up to the railing and was rescued. Kim was determined to be a high-risk patient for post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).
1. Teacher, I had a hard time lately because I couldn’t understand.
You said it’s hard because you can’t understand
It was hard because I didn’t understand the world. There are still too many people mocking the victims and the dead,
Without hesitation, he poured out the words, “It’s your fault for going out to play.”
Government agencies don’t seem to know how to grieve. Why the hell is that, I can’t understand, it’s hard,
If you can understand, if you can know what the heart is
I don’t think it will be difficult. Counselor: Let’s talk about defense mechanisms today.
Remember when I said I don’t want recognition, just understanding is enough to make my life worth living? me: yes i remember Counselor: I was impressed by what I heard, no need for recognition, but
I think you hate being bruised and hated because you don’t understand. Me: It’s hard for me not to be understood, and it’s hard for me not to understand others.
I think hating someone is the hardest thing in the world because if you don’t understand others, you’ll end up hating them.
So I’m trying to understand as much as possible. Counselor: The defense mechanism seems to be activated with the mind to understand,
Are you trying to protect yourself like that?
That’s how I live, so I’m trying to understand with all my dying power to save myself. Me: So this time, why aren’t the defense mechanisms working? We are bombarded indiscriminately before it even works, so we stand up to it and just curse together
I think the defense mechanism that wants to criticize and think badly has been activated.
Even if it’s like me You look at me for no reason, it’s all your fault
For now, I think we will fight together. That’s the concept. Sir, as I return home from this conversation,
It made me think calmly, calmly, and rationally.
I think I saw the process of attacking with hate and responding with hate in it.
So I tried to understand them. 2. I was asked to appear on CBS Radio, and I was asked this question there.
Various circumstances have been revealed since the disaster, but what part was the most shocking to Mr. Cho-rong? I answered like this. “The system collapsed, the control tower was absent, etc. The reporting system was a mess. There are many stories like this, but I want to ask the question again.
Is Korea really a country with such a broken system? Is it such a backward country?
I don’t think so. I am a person who lives with a free thinking system, so living in a foreign country is
I thought it might fit better, but the reason I live in Korea is because I thought it was safe. Even now, if you call 112, you get a reply within seconds, and the police are dispatched within 2-3 minutes.
There are so many CCTVs. The system has no problems. It has been good to see
But the problem is, what kind of thoughts and values do people who make important decisions on it really matter.” The broadcast time was short, so I couldn’t say more,
Sir, I think the essence of this case is
I see it as a ‘Korean society that does not respect diversity’. You have to get up in the morning, eat, study, go to work and get off work is the correct answer,
A society dominated by a uniform mindset that all entertainment is bad.
People who have lived through such times are in the leadership class, so there are so many people in Itaewon.
You must have thought it insignificantly, and people who think uniformly hate Itaewon, parties, nightlife, and Halloween as strange and bizarre, and ridicule you for going out to play. A social atmosphere that does not recognize differences creates hatred
I think it gave birth to a government that doesn’t know how to grieve. If you are different from others, point your finger at them, and if you show outstanding behavior, bully them
In a society where people look at each other behind the scenes, why did young people love Itaewon?
Because just going there felt liberating.
A neighborhood with Vietnamese restaurants run by Vietnamese people and Chinese restaurants run by Chinese people.
A place where you can freely talk with strangers and have relationship-oriented thinking.
A place to enjoy music and where world-renowned DJs are invited to DJ. For some people, 7 p.m. may be the beginning of the day,
For some people, Itaewon is the place of life,
A place where you can take a deep breath and relax, the only place where you can freely use the two words of youth.
Many young people love Itaewon.
In Itaewon, where diversity is respected, the older generation, who do not know how to respect diversity, could not prevent the disaster. Then the answer is simple. We just need to understand each other.
The older generation may not know, so it’s okay to let them know.
The younger generation thinks so, what more are we missing if we want to run a better country? You can’t divide sides and fight this side, and don’t shout that we are different with a picket that says, “Find out the truth.” It is an issue where there is no need to fight whether the investigation comes first or the government investigation comes first. You’re wrong, come down – don’t use it for this.
Now, all the older generations at the top are gathering and talking to each other, and what have we missed? It’s time to discuss what the real problem is. Please love the people. Because there is no love,
People don’t care where and how they get hurt.
Unpredictable, slips of the tongue, and an apology is not important, but the investigation process is more important, and it will hurt more. I hope no one resigns, I hope you show me how to change and give me faith. Then, let’s applaud how wonderful adults are. Parents raising young children can’t take their eyes off their children, worrying about getting hurt.
They are afraid of being put in an unsafe situation, and children feel a sense of security under such parents.
To a child, parents are the universe.
For the people, the nation is both the universe and the parent.
Please love the people more. 3. Being a writer, I really wanted to have my own studio someday, sir.
Not knowing when I’ll have it, I’ve already come up with a name for the studio just by imagining it. The name of the studio is ‘Safe Zone’. A little childish, right? Still, I like this name. He was someone who always needed an air-raid shelter. Because of its distinct personality,
I was used to being criticized somewhere, being hated for no reason, or being misunderstood. I hoped that my studio would become an air defense shelter for myself and others. whether you are male, female or gay. Whether you are an alien, where you come from, what nationality you are,
Whether they are young, old, handicapped, geeky or not. You’re safe here. I can understand and hug you. I will decorate my studio with a space that contains the message. A space where no one will harm you for being different from you. that’s safety
that’s what love is That way everyone can live together. There is a phrase like this in Kim Min-cheol’s book. We stand with you
You are safe here. As I write, I am organized.
The safe zone in my studio is where I need Mincheol Kim’s stationery,
Shouldn’t it be the whole of Korean society?
Now is not the time to fight, but isn’t it time for everyone to join hands and give this kind of message to the people?