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“Greetings” are important in building good relationships. On Twitter, attention is focused on episodes related to “whether or not to say hello”.

Tweet summary serviceTogetter(Togutter) explored the reasons why it is easy to spread from an impressive summary related to greetings.

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Why Unfriendly Staff Treated Me Kindly

Many people have probably been taught that greetings are the basis of interpersonal relationships.

A Twitter user tweeted advice from his father, “Don’t speak ill or backbiting. It is a commandment that no matter how good you are at your job, you must not neglect the basics of being a person, such as greetings.

The word that my father told me, “No matter how much you can work, the end is human power,” “Only you can control yourself”-Togetter

In response to this tweet, a series of voices said that a superior at work had said the same thing.

There are also testimonials about how the custom of greetings led to favorable evaluations. A medical student at a university in Germany felt that the typically unfriendly university café staff treated him “somewhat kindly.”

One day, a woman who put cream on the cake said, “You’re the only one who always says Danke (thank you) when you leave.”

The reason why the unfriendly aunties who work at the university cafe are kind to me for some reason. It was unconscious, but it seems that habit was good. -Togetter

In response to this tweet, there were also stories of experiences that adding a short greeting to the other party improved the attitude and impression of the other party. This is an example that shows that the presence or absence of greetings affects communication across occupations and national borders.

People who never return greetings vs. people who challenge until they return

On the other hand, the topic of “people who do not greet” is endless.

In the workplace of a certain Twitter user, it seems that the battle between “people who never return greetings” and “new employees who keep challenging until they return greetings” is unfolding.

There is a man who never returns greetings at work. It’s a little crazy to keep trying until the new girl answers, but it’s good to have a strong mentality. -Togetter

It’s a crazy story to imagine, but the responses to this tweet gathered stories of people close to me who didn’t return the greeting. In addition, there are multiple examples of people challenging people who do not return greetings, such as the new employee mentioned in the tweet, and some even ended up marrying people who did not return greetings. I’m surprised.

What is the reason behind the “person who does not greet” when you meet someone?

When I greeted a new employee at work, saying, “Thank you from today,” he said, “Why are you suddenly greeting me? You and I aren’t friends.”

When I greeted a newcomer at the company, I was told, “Why are you greeting me when you are not a friend?”

It’s a surprising answer for those who consider greetings to be the basis of communication, but perhaps there are more than a few people who have the idea that “greetings are only for close friends”.

There is also a pattern of receiving education that “do not greet strangers”

It seems that the way of thinking about whether to say hello or not may change depending on the situation.

For example, when a Twitter user participated in a circle at a doujinshi sale event, when he greeted the participants at the booth next to him, they laughed, saying, “Do you know anyone?” The story spread.

At the event, when I said “Good morning, thank you for your time today,” to the circle next door, they said, “Oh, do you know anyone? ‘I don’t know, why did you say hello?’ A story that was said-Togetter

In this tweet, some said, “Greetings are common sense when joining a circle,” while others said, “I didn’t know about it until I became a salesgirl.”

Is it possible that the circle participant who laughed at the greeting was the one who was told, “From the viewpoint of crime prevention, “Don’t greet people you don’t know”? There was also a guess.

It seems that there are actually cases where children are taught to be wary of greetings from strangers.

For example, a Twitter user questioning that children who ride in an elevator in an apartment building do not greet each other received a reply saying, “I teach you to ignore when someone you don’t know greets you.”

Elementary school students who ignore greetings and elementary school students who actively start themselves were both for crime prevention!-Togetter

Since the act of greeting includes various meanings and social contexts, there are many angles that can be taken up. Communication is an unavoidable part of everyday life, so when you see a special episode, isn’t it a topic that makes you want to compare it with your own values and react?

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