I have been married to my husband’s family for nearly 3 years before my sister-in-law got married. My mother-in-law passed away many years ago, so only my father-in-law remained at home. My wife and I are the oldest children, and we both work at companies near our house, so we naturally live with our father-in-law following marriage. As for my sister-in-law and brother-in-law, due to working and living in the city, following marriage, my husband and I rented an apartment there.

In the early days, although her sister-in-law lived far away from her hometown, she would come back to play once a month. At that time, she also went with me to the market to cook delicious dishes. Even that aunt is clever, she often makes cakes, yogurts, mannequins, etc. for the whole family to eat.

Since the wedding for more than 3 years, I still have not been pregnant but the reason is that I have a septum uterus, so it is not easy to conceive naturally, so I become sad and live a much more closed life. (Illustration)

Occasionally, I also actively call my father-in-law and sister-in-law to ask regarding everyone’s health at home. Or sometimes the two sisters also trade a lot of miscellaneous things. But since I got married for more than 3 years now, I still haven’t been pregnant, but the reason is because I have a septum uterus so it is not easy to conceive naturally, so I became sad, living a much more closed life.

If during the previous holidays and anniversaries, I often came back a day early to help clean and cook, then a year ago I returned early in the morning when I had a job. I was afraid to ask, but she also said that because she came home or was asked by her aunts and uncles regarding having a baby, she was pressured. Even though I know that people are interested, I don’t mean to pry into my private life, but I’m sad. So I came home later to limit contact with people.

More than 3 years of infertility treatment cost a lot of money for me and my wife. Because I’m just a salaryman, and I’m staying on the street, so many times when I don’t have money to get medicine, I still have to carefully borrow from my grandmother. So when I have a job at home, I don’t contribute as much as before. When Tet comes, I only give my sister-in-law regarding 3-5 million VND, and my mother’s death anniversary this year 1-2 years, I can only give 3 million envelopes, the rest my wife and I have to take care of everything.

Infertile sister-in-law, sometimes I think I also love. But sometimes I also envy her openly when she can live alone up there without having to deal with her father-in-law. Also, being married to the oldest child, so I have to take care of everything very heavy. My father-in-law assigns everything to the eldest son. He also said that he had to take care of everything, including the memorial service. Fortunately, I am quite agile so I can take care of everything.

This year’s mother-in-law’s death anniversary, I was given all by his father to the couple to take care of. He said he was old, so he didn’t have to worry anymore. Before the anniversary of the death anniversary, the sister-in-law on the street also called to ask if the brothers and sisters had made the anniversary of the anniversary, if they had repaired this mother’s grave or not. I was still excited, she asked me to contribute to the anniversary to share with my brothers and sisters. However, it was not until 5 am on the anniversary of the death that the two children returned and prohibited any movement.

The two children only brought the right bouquet of fresh lotus flowers – the flower my mother-in-law liked when she was alive, came home to set up an altar to burn incense for her, then carefreely come down to make a feast. This bouquet of lotus flowers, according to me, is only regarding 300,000 VND.

Seeing that her aunt came home to celebrate the anniversary with her bare hands, I told my sister-in-law:

“Aunt Hang, we only have 2 brothers in our family, while our parents are common parents. Mother’s death anniversary like this, the two brothers have to shoulder the burden. Next time on your mother’s death anniversary, remember to donate a few million to make a feast, don’t bring a bunch of lotus flowers like this to burn your mother’s incense for you to smear.”

Hearing me say that, my sister-in-law didn’t mind at all, was regarding to say something, when my father-in-law passed by and saw me saying that, he loudly said:

“Come on, who said that the second wife and daughter-in-law can only carry a bouquet of flowers to offer to their mother. Here, they just gave me 20 million to repaint her grave to make it more spacious.”

Seeing that her aunt came back to celebrate the anniversary with her bare hands, I decided to tell her straight away and then chased her away. (Illustration)

My father-in-law finished speaking, but my face turned red from embarrassment and wanted to apparate. I thought that aunt and uncle returned empty-handed, so I gave her a straight-up opinion and chased it away without thinking that she still had the heart to pay for her grave repair. It’s true that I’m too narrow-minded, the couple is still treating infertility due to a septum uterus but still trying to save that money. I guess the two of them had to cut down on food and expenses or pay for medical treatment to give that money to him.

I’ve been struggling for a few days now, my husband told me and my wife that we have 20 million, so just give them to the children for treatment because the aunt and uncle will probably run out of money. I don’t know why my sister-in-law’s uterus has a septum?

Why does the uterus have a septum?

A septate uterus is a genetic abnormality that doctors still don’t know what causes this abnormality.

This phenomenon occurs when the embryo is developing, the uterus of the fetus begins to develop into two tubes and eventually merges to become one uterus in the middle of the body. In a septate uterus, these two tubes fuse together not quite effectively.

What is the uterine septum surgery like?

First, pregnant women need to understand that surgical procedures will only be performed before pregnancy or combined following cesarean section. This means that during pregnancy, the pregnant woman is not allowed to interfere with any procedure.

Note, the surgical procedure performed depends on the type of uterine malformation:

– For bicornuate uterus, with unknown septum: The doctor opens the abdominal wall to inflate the uterus, then sutures the uterine wall and closes the abdominal wall.

– For bicornuate uterus with septum: In this case, the doctor will remove the septum following opening the uterine cavity.

– For the septum near the cervix: In this case, the doctor will perform uterine surgery by opening the left and right uterine chambers as well as suturing the two chambers together.