Kevin Soto Perdomo | Daniela González González | Roxana Reina Carol | Jean Carlos Freyre Carmona | Jorge Alejandro Fernandez Espinosa

“The main stage that we face when we end a toxic relationship is the mourning stage because when we lose something in which we had added emotional or cognitive value, we enter into a process of mourning for emotional loss,” Alina says. “In the grieving process there are several stages. First denial because our brain is not adapted to the new, it needs to learn that something has changed, that something has been lost. Then the negotiation begins. Then there is the stage of depression because it is necessary to suffer it, the faster you suffer, the faster you accept it. It is one of the laws of the grieving process. And then comes acceptance, which enters when there is already learning regarding what happened.

However, in the song get rid of, of Rosalía, a rapid or almost non-existent transition from suffering to recovery can be seen. The image that is offered is that of a strong woman and, more than strong, immune to the pain caused by the breakup.

According to musicologist Ylarramendiz, in songs like get rid of the new construction of a strong woman facing the man she subjugates is observed, which is typical of these urban pop genres. However, they do not stop using the same expressions and phrases when speaking.

In the same way it happens when love and affection end. Then they give way to these expressions loaded with self-love, freedom and revenge, which invite them to live the party, to think regarding the present, to forget and ignore everything related to suffering. Regarding breakups, Alina expresses that the most important thing is self-love. “Loving yourself is knowing that you have flaws and you must work on them to control them. This also means having virtues and knowing that those virtues do not make you superior to anyone. When you are able to know yourself well and love yourself, you strengthen your identity. An individual with a strong identity that is not completely rigid, but also not too flexible to be easily deceived, is extremely strong in a relationship. So if you break up and start working on this kind of different attitude to life, you can get out of the risk of getting back into a toxic relationship.”

CREDITS

Coordination:

Lys Alfonso Bergantino | Mariana Camejo

Creative direction and layout:

Mariana Camejo

Design:

Fabián Cobelo Caballero