Beyond Social Skills: How Connection Groups Are Rewriting the Rules of Autism Support
Loneliness is a silent epidemic, and for autistic individuals, it’s often amplified. While traditional therapies have long focused on teaching neurotypical social behaviors, a growing movement is prioritizing something far more fundamental: genuine connection. A recent shift in the therapeutic community is recognizing the power of less-structured groups, offering a space where autistic individuals can simply be, fostering a sense of belonging that can be, as one therapist puts it, “life-saving.”
The Limitations of “Social Skills” Training
For years, the standard approach to supporting autistic individuals in social situations involved explicit instruction – how to make eye contact, how to interpret body language, the “correct” way to initiate a conversation. But as many who’ve experienced these programs can attest, memorizing a script doesn’t equate to authentic interaction. “Traditional social connection groups tend to focus on teaching and practicing neurotypical social norms,” explains Lisa Nicoloff, a neurodiversity-affirming therapist in Illinois who runs a thriving connection group. “Suppressing stims, forcing eye contact…it can feel very performative, so you lose the opportunity to have a genuine connection.”
The problem isn’t necessarily the intention behind social skills training, but the underlying assumption that autistic social behavior is deficient and needs to be “fixed.” This approach can be exhausting and ultimately counterproductive, leading to increased anxiety and masking – the act of suppressing natural behaviors to appear neurotypical.
The Rise of Social Connection Groups: A Different Approach
Social connection groups, in contrast, prioritize shared experiences, interests, and mutual support. Nicoloff’s group, for example, doesn’t follow a rigid curriculum. Instead, members drive the conversation, discussing everything from favorite TV shows and music to navigating sensory sensitivities and workplace accommodations. “Everyday life challenges are reflected on, resources are shared,” Nicoloff says. “It’s about creating a space where people can show up as they are, without having to explain themselves.”
This emphasis on authenticity is crucial. The freedom to stim, to avoid eye contact, to simply exist without judgment creates a safe environment where genuine relationships can flourish. The power of this “safe space” is echoed by participants, who often find relief in connecting with others who understand their experiences without requiring constant explanation.
The Power of Shared Interests: Dungeons & Dragons and Beyond
The concept of shared interests extends beyond casual conversation. Increasingly, social connection groups are incorporating activities that naturally foster collaboration and communication. Perhaps the most intriguing example is the growing popularity of therapeutic Dungeons & Dragons (D&D). Research, though still in its early stages, suggests that the flexible and imaginative nature of the game provides a unique platform for autistic individuals to practice social skills in a low-pressure environment.
A rapid evidence assessment published in the Journal of Creativity in Mental Health (Henrich & Worthington, 2023) highlighted promising themes across 13 studies exploring the therapeutic benefits of D&D. Further studies (Atherton et al., 2025) have shown that autistic participants often find it easier to relate to others within the structured, yet flexible, framework of a tabletop role-playing game.
Implications for Therapists and the Future of Autism Support
The shift towards social connection groups has significant implications for therapists and the broader autism support community. Nicoloff offers clear advice for those looking to start their own groups: “Do your best to create a low-pressure environment…Collaborate with the group on topics or activities…Keep learning about neurodiversity.” This ongoing education, particularly learning from neurodivergent voices, is paramount.
Looking ahead, we can expect to see increased demand for these types of groups, as well as further research into their effectiveness. The integration of activities like therapeutic gaming will likely become more common, offering innovative ways to foster connection and build social skills in a natural and engaging way. The focus will continue to move away from “fixing” autistic individuals and towards creating a more inclusive and accepting world that celebrates neurodiversity.
Ultimately, the success of social connection groups lies in their recognition of a fundamental human need: to be seen, heard, and accepted for who you are. As the therapeutic landscape evolves, prioritizing connection over conformity will be key to unlocking the full potential of autistic individuals and fostering a more inclusive society for all. What innovative approaches to neurodiversity support are you seeing in your community? Share your thoughts in the comments below!
