Holidays Can Be Tough: Experts Share Tips to Support Teens’ Mental Health
While the holidays often conjure images of togetherness and joy, for some teens, this time of year can bring increased stress, anxiety, and loneliness. Mental health experts emphasize the importance of acknowledging these feelings and being attentive to the unique challenges young people may face during the holiday season.
Heightened Stressors During the Holidays
Kids Help Phone reports a noticeable uptick in young people reaching out for support during the holiday period. This isn’t surprising given the various pressures that can arise when school pauses and family dynamics shift. Kids might feel pressure to be happy, to have a “perfect” holiday experience or worry about finances and family tensions.
“A lot of young people can really feel alone during the holidays,” says Alisa Simon, of Kids Help Phone. She notes that some young people may feel particularly isolated if their family isn’t a place where they feel safe and connected.
“We all put so much pressure on ourselves around the holidays, particularly if we’ve got younger people, to try and make it the best holiday ever,” says Simon.
Dr. Sandra Newton, a clinical and school psychologist, agrees. “Holidays can be stressful for kids and youth, especially those already dealing with conditions like anxiety or depression. Sometimes, kids pretend to be happy to avoid disappointing their loved ones, making it harder to know what they are truly feeling.
Promoting Open Communication
Open communication is crucial. Parents should create a safe space for young people to express their feelings without judgment. “It’s important to teach kids that it’s OK to feel any way they feel. It doesn’t have to look perfect,” says Newton. “Let them know they’re not alone.”
Encourage regular check-ins. These moments can be casual and don’t need to be intense. Simply being present and available sends a powerful message.
Beyond talking at home, Experts also advise families to ensure that teenagers have access to other sources of support. If a teen is seeing a therapist, consider scheduling a session before the break to help them navigate potential stressors.
Recognizing Signs of Trouble
It’s vital to be alert to changes in behaviour. A sudden drop in mood, withdrawal from activities they usually enjoy, or a shift in sleep patterns can be potential red flags.
“If you notice a change in your teen,” directly asks Dr. Kevin Gabel, a child and youth psychiatrist. “Don’t hesitate to seek professional help.”
Be aware that family dynamics change and loss can be especially difficult during the holidays.
“Holidays are typically all about her family, and two she wants that feeling of connection, but now she’s dealing with this loss. Holidays can accentuate these feelings of grief and make everything harder.”
It’s important to acknowledge their pain, not pretend it doesn’t exist. Avoiding conversations about loss can make things worse.
