2024-04-11 07:38:00
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Actor Kim Seung-hyun’s daughter is diagnosed with ‘abandonment anxiety’ due to fear of being abandoned… What is the ‘way to overcome’ recommended by experts?
Reporter Lee Hae-na | Intern reporter Jeong Deok-young
Entered 2024/04/11 16:38
Actor Kim Seung-hyun’s daughter was diagnosed as suffering from ‘abandonment anxiety’, which causes her to fear being abandoned by her family. Abandonment anxiety comes from the fear of not being loved by the other person or being abandoned by the other person./Photo = Channel A ‘Oh Eun-young’s Golden Counseling Center’ Kim Soo-bin (23), daughter of actor Kim Seung-hyun (43), is afraid of being abandoned by her family. I was diagnosed as suffering from ‘abandonment anxiety’.
On the 9th, Kim Seung-hyun, a teen star who captivated the 90s, and his daughter Kim Soo-bin appeared on Channel A’s ‘Oh Eun-young’s Golden Counseling Center’ and confessed their concerns related to their family life. On this day, Kim Seung-hyun recalled his past when he had to reveal that he had become an unmarried father while enjoying his prime. He said, “After the press conference at the time, I was surrounded by all kinds of rumors,” and “I naturally stayed away from the entertainment industry, became intimidated, and developed social phobia.” He continued, “Subin grew up with her grandmother (her mother), and I stayed with an older brother I knew and worked part-time to earn money.” In response, Kim Soo-bin said, “Dad (Kim Seung-hyun) only visited the house occasionally, so it was difficult to call him dad,” and she said, “I called him ‘Black Dad’ as a nickname.” In her sentence completion test, Kim Soo-bin surprised her panel by writing, “If there’s anything wrong, it’s because I was born with it.” He said, “My grandmother often said, ‘Your father (Kim Seung-hyun) was very popular, and that became that way after you were born, so you must do well.’” He added, “I often thought, ‘Was it wrong that I was born?’ and I still do sometimes.” He said. Accordingly, Dr. Oh Eun-young (58) diagnosed that “Kim Soo-bin has abandonment anxiety.”
Abandonment anxiety is the fear of not being loved by the other person or being abandoned by the other person. Professor Lim Myeong-ho of the Department of Psychotherapy at Dankook University said, “If attachment to caregivers is not properly formed early in life, abandonment anxiety may appear.” Attachment is largely divided into secure attachment and insecure attachment. People who have formed secure attachments mainly form relationships based on positive emotions such as trust and friendship, but people who have formed insecure attachments have severe emotional changes, are strong in jealousy, and show a tendency to obsessively focus on the other person. Establish a relationship based on When a caregiver ignores the child’s needs or shows inconsistent affectionate behavior during childhood, the child develops anxiety that he or she may be abandoned or rejected by the caregiver. Due to this anxiety, children are unable to form close relationships with people around them even when they grow up, and when they are separated from others, they become anxious and tend to want to be together excessively. Obsession resulting from abandonment anxiety has a negative impact on both oneself and the other person, making it difficult to continue the relationship.
However, insecure attachment is not the only cause of abandonment anxiety. Even people who have formed secure attachments can experience abandonment anxiety. Professor Lim Myung-ho said, “Anxiety is a deep-rooted human instinct,” and added, “Even people with secure attachments have anxiety in their hearts, and that anxiety can manifest itself at any time.” If a person with a secure attachment has no one to rely on when they are severely hurt in a relationship and are traumatized, or are in a stressful situation or facing financial difficulties, they may develop a tendency toward abandonment anxiety.
Professor Lim Myeong-ho said, “Abandonment anxiety is a problem caused by relationships, so it can never be solved by the individual alone,” and added, “We must try to form appropriate attachments with people close to us.” At the same time, Professor Lim said, “It is important to communicate with people who can empathize with me.” It is possible to form attachments even in adulthood. You should look back on the relationships you have formed so far and try to calm down your anxiety by continuously talking to people you are comfortable with and who can look at you objectively.
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