My family only has 3 children, my mother divorced my father when I was less than 1 year old. After the divorce, my mother moved to my hometown, my father remarried and had children, so I rarely visit my sisters. The day before, my father called to ask, then stopped altogether. I don’t understand why dad treats his two biological children like that. Asked my mother, she just sighed and told me to ignore it, don’t blame my father because he has a life of his own.
After the divorce, my mother stayed there to raise my sisters and brothers with the help of grandparents, not with anyone. Growing up without the care and love of my father made me a stubborn and stubborn child, but I loved my mother very much. Now I am also 28 years old, married and still living with my mother. My wife is a reasonable person who is well liked by her mother-in-law, so I have nothing to criticize.
Unlike me, my sister Thy is different. She lives happily, optimistically and still refuses to get married despite being 35 years old. Daughters at her age have settled into a family, but she has not. I was busy doing business, taking care of my mother for me, not taking care of my own happiness. Before, she also loved a few people but never came.
My mother is quite open-minded, letting the children choose their own happiness, but after 30 years of age, Ms. Thy has not yet married, making her impatient. This time, my mother found a pretty good place for her, she confided, that she could feel secure when she got married. But she remained indifferent. The daughter is old and still single, this time she came back to eat and her mother forced her to get married, whether she wanted to or not.
Refusing to marry the mother of her choice, she was also cruel to the friend who pursued her for 3 years. He loves you very much, work, family is fine. Yet she refused. She was so angry, her mother told her that if she didn’t get married, don’t go home. It was the first time I saw my mother so angry. But no matter how hard her mother forced her, she still refused until she said this with tears in her eyes: “I don’t get married because I don’t want to be like my mother in the past. My mother is not happy, had to take me away because it was too hard to live with my father. “.
Sister Thy said that, my mother and I were both sad and crying. Perhaps because the scene where my mother carried my sisters and left, made her psychologically haunted for many years. Mom hugged her sister crying and apologizing. Because of that day, my sister and I did not have a perfect family, she did not have faith in marriage as now.
If only marriage could bring happiness, perhaps people wouldn’t divorce so much.
For Ms. Thy now, as long as a man is loving enough, gives her confidence and happiness, she will automatically want to get married. My mother and I will wait and respect you. But she needs to get rid of the negative mentality because the old story is old before she can open her heart to receive someone’s feelings.