It was not the first time that Kriszta Borbély took Alexandra and Ervin Nagy with him, they both sat separately in his car a few years ago. But since then, the world has changed a lot, as not only did they get married, but their twin daughters were born, and the world of theater has also changed a lot. Public life did not get any easier. The I’ll take you with me Borcsa Fiala summarized the latest episode (which was filmed in mid-February, so before Ervin Nagy stood up for Péter Magyar and spoke at the demonstrations).
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“We need a babysitter!”
Right at the beginning of the broadcast, there is a little entertainment disturbance, because Ervin is late: after putting their daughters to sleep, he was still drinking a coffee in peace. When he arrives, he reveals that the nature of the two differs in this as well: Szandra is impatient and anxious, she does not like to be late, while Ervin claims to be a Mediterranean type and does not like to rush. Meanwhile, Sandra gets a call from the Slovakian’s agent, this is the phone she always picks up, just in case she is offered the role of her dreams.
From the conversation, it becomes clear who the director is, to whose invitation he would not be able to say no. “Now Jórgos Lánthimos” he answers. (He is the Greek-born director whose last work, a poor couples, He also received an Oscar.) Ervin, on the other hand, claims to be a “Nolan” (Christopher Nolan notes, also an Oscar winner Oppenheimert), but it also becomes clear on the drive that few directors would be able to persuade them to appear in the same film. Only Ildiko Enyedi has achieved this feat so far. Well, it’s not as if they don’t respect and appreciate each other, or look up to each other professionally, but not everyone could manage their constant bickering in a professional, professional environment. “We need a person before whom we don’t do this” Szandra claims, with which Ervin also agrees: “We need a babysitter!”
This was also confirmed to Kriszta D. Tóth in the background discussion before the shooting by the Péterfy writer couple (they spent a month with them in Italy when Gergely Péterfy and Ervin Nagy were made “conversation book”):
Szandra and Ervin’s existence is frequent bickering, for them it is like oxygen.
However, disputes are always resolved, they say now, with some “child’s stupidity”, which takes the edge off the whole thing (and, when I write, your child’s, please understand; for example, Szandra throws gum at her husband).
However, they don’t tend to differ in big things, their values, tastes, and ideas about female and male roles are the same. They consider the equality between the two to be similar to a Scandinavian couple, but the arrival of the twins also helped. At the same time, they believe that the beginning of their relationship was “struggling”, they also went to couples therapy, because they needed someone to translate between the two of them and to say things that were difficult for each other, but were accepted by the therapist.
“You just drive calmly”,
says Ervin jokingly to Krista, when it becomes clear right at the beginning of the drive that they really used to quarrel not only at home, between the four walls, but also in front of their friends, family members and acquaintances, and that too freely. The shooting day is also complicated by the fact that they have had a hard night, because the girls ate broccoli meatballs, so Ervin – who had the more colicky child during anesthesia that night – was only able to rest for three hours.
In this connection, it turns out that the twins’ anesthesia logistics forced them into separate rooms, so the question is adequate, and Kriszta asks:How did the arrival of the girls transform your relationship?” Sandra says that she was not surprised, which is also due to the fact that they have a lot of help in the person of their nanny, and her sister and Ervin’s mother also help out. This is certainly necessary, because the lack of sleep can take a toll on them, and they fight a lot during this time. “It happens that in the middle of the night we snarl like dogs— says Ervin. – And at this time, every morning starts with apologizing to each other for speaking to the other in an unacceptable style.” That way, if they are absolutely exhausted, their helpers can take over the children, and they can go somewhere for the night – to practically sleep off themselves.
Their one-and-a-half-year-old children also influence their work.
“As parents of twins, we can’t afford to stand back at the conveyor belt”
– says Ervin, who considers it important not to miss the first two or three years of their children.
You don’t need to go next door for self-confidence
When it comes to confidence, it seems the two are very different in that area. Ervin has an innate self-confidence, which is often like a shield, protecting him even when his public appearances come under attack. He just shrugs his shoulders at them, saying: “Take it easy, my father loved me.” According to him, this sense of security brought from his childhood makes him somewhat untouchable.
However, Szandra is much more inclined to question herself from time to time, but her background is also different: while she always received the message from her mother that she was wonderful in her own right, her father was much more critical and expected her to immediately excel in everything. This may also be why, as he tells us, if something doesn’t work for him at first, he immediately leaves it behind. At the same time, he does not consider himself to be a person lacking in self-confidence, he has always been a leading type of person around whom the others gathered. Even in elementary school, she didn’t stand in the corner like a spoiled little girl, instead she asked the physical education teacher if she could teach the class for her, because at that time she was a big fan of Réka Rubint’s gymnastics, and she wanted to share the experience with others.
But sometimes he was oppressed by the classic “what will the village say”. And what did he say in the end? When they visit home, they have the impression that they love it very much and are proud of it.
Domestic opportunities are dwindling
They make no secret of it – especially not Ervin, whom Szandra Lúdas describes as Matyi – that they are not satisfied with the conditions at home, neither with regard to public life nor the theater profession.
“I live a happy life, but I’m very bored that people aren’t given so many opportunities here”
Szandra complains.
They add: they receive endless love from people on the street, but the authorities neglect them. That’s why Alexandra Borbély feels especially lucky that she speaks Slovak, so now she’s trying to get a job opportunity there. Recently, they talked to a producer friend from Slovakia, who was very surprised that so few people speak out about public affairs in our country. “Because in Slovakia the actors don’t let themselves go and everyone expresses their displeasure” he tells. There, too, they wanted to sign a statement with the actors of the national theater, in which they promise not to reveal their political affiliation even on their own pages, but many of them refused.
Alexandra Borbély and Ervin Nagy: We’ll stay, don’t worry! “I’ll take you with me.”
I’ll Take You With Me – April 10, 2024
Ervin Nagy also feels that Slovakian actors have a greater sense of justice, where people go out to the streets to protest when it comes to that. However, the mass movements at home in recent weeks have given him hope.
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