Generosity in Relationships: Is There Such A Thing As Too Much?

2024-02-09 12:35:00

A couple of months ago I started dating Sasha. We met completely by chance in a common company of friends. I had no intention of getting into a relationship anytime soon. But Sasha immediately began to court me and, one might say, conquered me.

I have always had high demands on men. The main one is generosity. I could never have any kind of relationship with a greedy man. Therefore, the desire to pay for me in restaurants, give good gifts and all that is important to me.

Sasha was always interested in whether I needed anything and unconditionally paid for us everywhere we went. Well, periodically he pleased me with flowers and other pleasant surprises.

Two weeks ago it was his mother’s birthday. We haven’t met her yet; after all, we’ve only been dating Sasha for two months. But, nevertheless, he involved me in choosing a gift for my mother and asked for advice. I was even pleased that he trusted me so much.

In the end, we settled on giving her a watch. All they needed from me was an idea, and he went to choose a specific model himself, knowing his mother’s tastes.

And imagine my surprise when he bought the watch for as much as forty thousand rubles! I decided that he was not just generous, but very generous. And a wonderful son. So much the better, it means I won’t be deprived in the future either.

How wrong I was! Three days ago my birthday came. Having witnessed what a substantial gift he bought for his mother, I was preparing for something especially expensive and luxurious. After all, he has been giving gifts to his mother all his life, and I am his new girlfriend who needs to be surprised.

We agreed to meet in the evening at a restaurant and celebrate this holiday together. On the fateful day in the morning I received a delivery of flowers from Sasha, and also ten thousand rubles transferred to the card…

But I thought that this was just the beginning. My boyfriend, apparently, decided to please me early in the morning. But everything else probably had to wait for me ahead, during the gala dinner in the restaurant.

But it was not there! Yes, then he paid for dinner, of course. True, since there were only two of us, it didn’t seem that expensive. That’s all! My gift is only ten thousand rubles. And then, not even in an envelope, but by transfer to a card.

At first I didn’t want to spoil my own birthday and discuss it all with him later. But the more I thought about it over dinner, the more nervous I became. So in the end I decided to dot all the i’s right away.

– Sash, do you think it’s normal to give such a gift to your girlfriend? – I started from afar.

– What is it? Did you not like something? – he was taken aback.

– Oh, that is, transferring ten thousand rubles to a card for the woman you love on her birthday is in the order of things? – I continued to insist on my point.

– Anh, I didn’t think you were so mercantile. You and I have only been dating for two months. Maybe I should transfer another apartment to you? I tried for you today, sent flowers, organized dinner. But it turns out that everything is wrong with you,” he answered incomprehensibly.

– Dinner and flowers are not gifts. It’s collateral. But with the gift, you could have been fussed over, and not just bought me off with a small transfer. You took much more care of the gift for mom! – I couldn’t stand it.

– Well, now I understand everything. What upset you is not that I gave you something wrong. And the fact that mom’s gift is more expensive. Well, my dear, my mother is now the closest person to me, she has been with me all my life. You are already dear to me too, but please don’t compare yourself to your mother,” Sasha said.

– At this rate, you and your mother will live then. Let her cook food for you and sleep in the same bed with you,” I said and ran out of the restaurant.

Now I understand that, of course, it was in vain that I spoke so rudely towards my boyfriend. We had to wait and see how events would develop further. But, on the other hand, with such mama’s boys, it may not be worth continuing a relationship, but it is better to immediately cut them in the bud.

Several days have passed since my birthday. Sasha never wrote with an apology, and I’m also not eager to meet him halfway. I definitely won’t be the first to write. But if he makes contact, I will listen to his suggestions.

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