– We are so finely tuned organisms that we read information from others extremely quickly. We like people with similar values, similar views, similar views on the world. Similarity allows you to feel comfortable, allows you to confirm the correctness of previously made decisions and alternatives. Similarity in one way or another is the beginning of any relationship, says Olga Shaldybina.
How to recognize that a person likes you
Visible markers help with this: appearance, manner of speaking and demeanor, turns of speech, clothing, any other insignia.
The psychologist named 6 signals that indicate your interlocutor’s sympathy for you.
1. Mirrors your gestures, behavior
Mirroring is copying (often on a subconscious level) the tone of the interlocutor’s voice, speech patterns, non-verbal behavior.
Did your partner’s behavior change when you changed your gestures? Are they similar to yours? Has his expression changed as well as yours, or is it completely the same? Does your counterpart copy the volume and tone of your voice?
2. Uses similar turns of speech, jargon
Speech is another sign to single out “ours”. Speech turns, peculiar jokes, specific words, pronunciation – all this is another marker to “probe” the interlocutor. Those who feel mutual sympathy will use similar speech constructions, talk at a relatively equal speed, joke in a certain tone.
3. Shortens the distance
Social space characterizes the degree of proximity or alienation from each other:
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so-called social distance – from 1.2 to 3.5 meters,
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personal – from 45 centimeters to 1.2 meters,
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intimate – less than 45 centimeters.
Leaning towards a person is a non-verbal signal of partnership, a friendly attitude, and a willingness to cooperate. Two strangers, as a rule, begin communication within the framework of social distance. If mutual sympathy arises, the physical space for communication between them decreases.
If one of the interlocutors feels more sympathy than the other, from the outside it will look like a kind of “dance”: one gradually approaches, and the second, in order to maintain the usual distance, gradually moves away.
Estimate, does your counterpart keep the distance? Or step by step reduces it?