2014-10-09 10:30:00
How do you deal with the fact that your partner has frequent recourse to movies porn, even when he is offered the opportunity to develop sexually? This is the question that Céline asks herself, in a relationship with Marc for 2 years. And it is not out of excessive prudishness that she criticizes him for viewing it in all its formsit’s out of love!
I should have been wary
“I should have been wary of this supposed freedom to watch porn movies… Of course he has the right and no, it’s not shocking. If it was only that, I would have taken my side, I would have said to myself that after all, it’s only his business, I would have even pushed the complicity to lend him a hand! But there was never any question of sharing with my companion. He doesn’t want us to watch these videos together.
And I can’t reassure myself by telling myself that it’s “his little daily pleasure”, like a square of chocolate before sleeping… My man has become addicted. Today he is ultra-dependent, his life is punctuated by hisviewing/masturbation sessions. Sometimes he tells me he’s coming to bed and I hear him masturbating in the living room, alone in front of his computer… Where’s the freedom in that? Youporn is his drug and he won’t go to bed without getting his salacious picture shoot.
I don’t fill it
It made me very sad at first, I said to myself that I couldn’t be “good or horny” enough in his eyes. Since he admitted to me that he was looking for videos with the redhead “tag”, I had even considered having my brown hair dyed.
The most vexing thing for me was to say to myself: “I don’t fill it/anymore; a stranger makes my man cum…”
Little by little, I thought of myself, I realized that he was no longer able to satisfy me, I no longer wanted him, our relationship was so disappointinghe who was nevertheless a very good lover until then.
I started resenting him and being disgusted with him. It’s not very sexy to know it’s perpetually fixed to your screen and accompanied by a box of tissues. He’s my lover, so even though it’s his right to watch twenty sex scenes a day, it was also my right to demand that this change.
In video: “Addicted to porn: how to get out of it?”
Communication is key
We talked about it a lot. He makes great efforts to learn to make love again and he went back to sport, a kind of detox 😉
Communication is the key, it allows me to be patient with him, to agree to support him even if I also suffer from the situation. If, on the contrary, my partner had walled himself in silence or denial, I would have fled!
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