THE ESSENTIAL
- 50% of men say they are very happy in their love life, but only 42% of women feel the same way, according to an OpinionWay survey from June 2022.
- “How was your day ?” is a question that can easily be asked every day.
It’s a very simple question but one that could have a big impact: according to researchers from the University of Waterloo, in Belgium, asking your partner or partner “How was your day ?“, would ensure the longevity of a couple.
The best question to reassure your partner and prove your love
According to the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology, this would allow people who do not feel fully accepted and loved, and who do not have much confidence in themselves, to be reassured. Indeed, these few words demonstrate a subtle attention very well received where compliments and support, for example, are less perceived as a proof of love by these people in lack of confidence.
“Being asked about their day isn’t threatening because it doesn’t ask the person to say more than they want. People with low levels of confidence are afraid to come forward because they are afraid of being rejected. They can stay in control by only speaking thethe parts of their day that they feel safe to reveal”, explain the scientists.
Five studies show the positive impact of this question for the partner
To reach this conclusion, the researchers conducted five different studies with 359 adults between the ages of 18 and 66. According to the first and second, people with lower levels of trust “feel more satisfied with their relationship when they report that their partner asks them about their day”. The third study demonstrated that “this gesture was felt as a sign of attention“.
The fourth and fifth studies highlighted the fact that people with low levels of trust felt that their partner took “more care of her when he asked them questions more frequently‘.
If love still remains a mystery, these results could offer an effective and scientifically proven way to improve the relationships of unconfident people!