Lies are constant on a daily basis. No matter how much a person tries to avoid them, Sometimes you find yourself in a situation where it seems like telling a lie is an option or, on the other hand, you find yourself in a situation where someone will tell you a lie.
So, if people are aware beforehand of how negative it is to tell lies and the damage they can cause Why is it done anyway?
What leads us to lie?
Numerous studies have shown that the reasons behind why someone tells a lie They are closely related to the search for acceptance or avoiding some negative situation.
Yesid Barrera, doctor in Political Science and Sociology, cites research made in the early 2000s that cover these motifs, specifically by researchers Alfred Adler and Adrienne Rich
“They said that what we do is offer a more positive impression towards us and make others see us betteroften avoiding situations that are uncomfortable and that represent a disapproval from the partner, family or society”says Barrera.
He also mentions the “social lies” that They are said to seek acceptance by a group. Furthermore, lies are told both for personal benefit and for the benefit of another person.
“In general, people lie for both material and psychological reasons.”says Barrera.
More common than you think
For Bella DePaulo, a researcher in the psychology department at the University of California, lLying is a common action in people’s daily lives.Even much more than one can perceive firsthand.
DePaulo did research in 2004 called “The Many Faces of Lies,” in where he asked a group of people to list the number of lies they told each day in a period of one weekand then write the reasons that led them to say them.
The results showed that The 147 study participants had told about two lies in every social interaction they had.where the reasons why they lied and the lies they told others varied.
In total, the lies told by all participants During the week there were more than 1,500.
“The contents of the lies we collected are classified into five categories: your feelings and opinions, your actions and plans, your knowledge, achievements and failures, explanation of your behaviors and personal deeds and possessions”, indicates DePaulo.
When do you learn?
Franklin Espinoza, industrial psychologist and occupational health specialist, says that lying is learned during childhood, and that, with the passage of time, lying begins to become “sophisticated.”
“This is a normal part of a person’s development, a child begins to lie when he or she is involved in more complex relationships. However, there is a stage of compulsive lying, which occurs between the ages of seven and eight, where the child lies to test the limits he has with his parental figures”says Espinoza.
It also ensures that, as a person grows, they have at their disposal elements that allow them to better endure a lie, such as the so-called plausible scenarios, which is the ability of someone to describe a credible situation.
Another interesting phenomenon that Espinoza explains is the moment in which a social circle admits and even applauds the lies told, mainly when a person “He tells a lie when he doesn’t know it’s a lie.”
“An example of this is when someone sells their car and when they are asked about aspects of the vehicle. responds even without having in-depth knowledge of the vehicle, always with the aim of obtaining a benefit”explains Espinoza.
Consequences for personal development
Lies, regardless of when they are told, will generate negative consequences that mainly affect the image of the person in a professional or personal context.
“If a person gets used to lying, He will live in a world that is not real, a world that is invented. A parallel world is created based on lies, in which the person often takes refuge, but naturally every lie has a break and when people begin to discover, they begin to generate something called distrust towards you,” says Barrera.
He also says that, upon being caught in a lie, Communication channels with other people fall, the prestige and reputation gained over time is lost.
Regarding recent events, Espinoza cites the case of Geraldine Fernández, the woman originally from Colombia who told the media that she had worked on “The Boy and the Heron”, the latest film from the Japanese animation studio of director Hayao Miyazaki, where she said who had produced more than 25 thousand frames of a film, the equivalent of 20 minutes in length.
“This is the perfect example of how a professional image can go down when the person is very ambitious and begins to embellish it to a level where people doubt it.. Lies affect us a lot, since the more we want to adorn our image with them, the more likely it is that people will discover us if they take the time to corroborate it,” says the psychologist.
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