I got married with many happy plans, but the first day I was “allergic” to the demands of my mother-in-law.
My husband and I came together when the economy was stable. I was the head of the accounting department at that time, able to hold my head high when standing in front of people. However, I was still despised by my husband’s family and thought that I married to extract money from my husband’s family.
Before I got married, I bought a small apartment, living alone. After we got married, my wife and I moved in with my brother’s parents even though I didn’t want to. I tried to please my husband’s family, so I moved in, but now I know it was the wrong decision.
The first night, my mother-in-law asked to “keep” the dowry. Illustration
Mother-in-law wants to keep dowry and salary
On the wedding night, when the couple just entered the room, the mother-in-law knocked on the door, offering to “keep” the dowry, with the reason: “You don’t need anything to sell, let your mother keep it for you. What do you do with the money, spend it squanderingly, let your mother keep it for you, when you need another mother to give it to you.”
Before I could say anything, my husband spoke up: “I go back to my room to rest, I let my wife and children keep their gold coins, I’m not afraid of being three years younger.”. She didn’t say anything, just closed the door with a bang.
From that day on, the real storm began. It was only 4 am, she called me up, told me to clean the house, clean the house, cook breakfast, do laundry, clean the house, water the plants and then water the orchid garden. She also said: “You sleep less. Sleep too much and obesity won’t give birth.”
In the evening, I sat down at the dinner table and she hinted at the money and gold that my husband and I had left. Then she also asked my apartment before the wedding, why not make a red cover with the names of both husband and wife. (When I bought the house, I hadn’t even met my husband. How can I let him name the house?)
Then she asked me how much it cost to rent the house. She is also curious to know how much my monthly income is but never shared with my grandparents. I’m a new bride, so I just hum. But the more she hummed, the more she demanded, which made me very angry.
After eating, I went to my room, not eager to talk to my mother-in-law. She opened her mouth to say “money”. Can I talk to you later?
After eating, I went to my room, not eager to talk to my mother-in-law. She opened her mouth to say “money”. Can I talk to you later? Illustration
That day, just 3 days after I returned to be a bride, when my wife and I were cleaning the house, she came to the place and demanded that my husband and I pay all of her salary. My mother-in-law said now we have to give her salary, let her spend and save.
Hoang (my husband), you are gentle and weak, you can only listen to your wife. Just give money to the Huong (me) it holds, when it’s time to leave each other, you’re empty-handed. Then your eyes will go white. From the very beginning, looking at how he was on his own in the red book, the gold coins he demanded to take, I was suspicious.”the mother-in-law’s words surprised both my husband and I.
Do not bring your mother-in-law who has thought about divorce
I did not expect, my wife and I have only been married for 3 days, the house has not been cleaned since the wedding day, but my mother-in-law has thought about our divorce and property division. I got angry, went up to my room, didn’t want to argue with her, lest she tell her new daughter-in-law to argue.
I really don’t know how to deal with this mother-in-law. I made my own money, but I didn’t ask for anyone’s money, but now that I’m married, my mother-in-law claims to take it all. Is it greed for people to see my mother-in-law like that? Is it fair for her to behave like this?