2023-10-08 19:50:14
She arrived in the studio all dapper and smiling. Sitting this young woman in our colorful chair for an interview was a real pleasure. Rosalie isn’t afraid to tell the real deal. Generous, she spoke to us about her roles on the small and big screen, her career as a host, her mother, her celibacy, her therapies and many other things…
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Rosalie, how are you?
I’m doing well. The funny thing is, I’ve never answered that in my life. It’s no secret: I’ve been in therapy for 10 years and I think it’s starting to bear fruit. I am serene.
Why 10 years of therapy?
I don’t find happiness easy and I’m always questioning whether I should do more or do less. It seems that I have learned to be content, to be a little less striving to please at all costs. I don’t know if it comes with age, but I feel more serene and less heavy.
What does your happiness consist of?
It is made of freedom. I think I’m a little wanderer at heart. I was made to live barefoot, and I bought myself a bus which is converted into a small house. My “bubus” is a fantasy that I imagined with a friend while we were driving on the 40 returning from a festival. We told ourselves that it’s expensive to find accommodation when we travel and that we would need a bus where we could sleep. I looked in the classifieds, and there was one for sale. It was a crush. It is forest green and has been completely renovated by a cabinetmaker. It’s a little house on wheels.
Photo: Julien Faugere
What are you doing with this “bubus”?
We set off on an adventure, without really knowing where we are going. It brings us closer to the stars too, since there is a beautiful terrace on the roof. She’s a rare gem, and I’m so happy that this is my life right now. I am also happy because now I am learning to let myself be transcended by what happens to me. Before, I tried to take it, control it and do something with it, whereas now I no longer wonder why it’s happening to me and, above all, I no longer wonder if I deserve it. I enjoy what happens to me and I react in a beautiful way without asking myself too many questions. This is pretty new to me.
“LITTLE MADAM”
This desire for freedom at all costs, where does it come from?
I wanted so badly to become a “little lady” way too soon! I started my career when I was a teenager, and when my friends suggested that I go do something young, like go to the water slides, I replied that I couldn’t because I had texts to write or learn. When I was 19, I dressed like a “little lady” with turtlenecks and glasses to show my intelligence.
Why did you adopt this image?
I think the “little lady” absolutely wanted to succeed. She had a very monolithic view of success, so she put all her eggs in one basket. I was 20 years old, I lived in an apartment with my boyfriend of the last seven years and two cats, I had a career and I led a lady’s life. There, I’m experiencing a bit of my teenage crisis. I am single and I want to enjoy life.
Living alone after living as a couple for several years, how do you cope?
I was in a relationship with Miro from 16 to 24 years old. We still have a great bond. But I like the idea of being completely free and going towards something that I don’t control. I find it nourishing because for the first time in my life, I’m giving myself the chance to be surprised. I realized that happiness comes much easier when you let it happen rather than when you absolutely seek it and try to shape it. I did this for too long, to the point of finding happiness that wasn’t mine. I also have this imposter syndrome which is never far away. I often tell myself that if it didn’t come with effort and suffering, I have trouble valuing it.
Photo: Julien Faugere
Having a mother who does this job and whose name is Mélanie Maynard, is that an asset or is it quite the opposite?
It certainly plays a role. My mother takes up a lot of space. Today, I realize that I grew up in my mother’s light when, for a long time, I thought I grew up in her shadow. So I tried to be more discreet. That too is something you learn in therapy: to know that you are not an extension of your parents. I recently understood that I was a person in my own right who belonged to each other, and that means that she and I have a really beautiful bond now.
Are you very close to your mother?
Yes. My mother was my best friend for a long part of my life, and it pissed me off. Sometimes I asked her to be my mother and not my friend, to stop trusting me and be a parent. My mother has always been a super permissive mother. Sometimes I wish she would be more bossy and take the reins rather than trust me. But it allowed me to become responsible very early and I’m proud of that in the end. Today, we find ourselves in complete freedom, she talks to me about what she is experiencing, and me too. I think we’ve gotten to a point where we’re both adults. It’s no longer mother and child. We are two women who look alike and we experience beautiful moments together. I love my mother so much. I think she’ll love me even more when I make her a grandmother, but she’ll have to be patient because she’ll have to wait a long time.
What kind of childhood did you have?
A happy childhood. I remember that my mother always defended me against my stepfather, who found me a little dissipated. He said I was a tornado who didn’t like authority. My mother told her that she would rather have a daughter who had too much character than a daughter who allowed herself to be trampled on. I had a childhood during which everyone praised everything that I was. But I hit a little wall when I got to high school, so I started to depreciate myself. I was a little tomboy.
Are you self-deprecating again?
Let’s say it’s still a work in progress, but yes. I need to learn to appreciate who I am and stop judging myself. For example, I’ve been living with my eating disorder for 13 years and I’m currently mourning the possibility of completely curing it one day. It’s still present, and I talk about it more and more. Living with an eating disorder and a self-image disorder is omnipresent! Plus, I do an image job… But it’s part of my life, and I have to live with it as best I can. Thank you, God, for Zoloft, which has changed my life! This medication was a liberation for me. Yes, I still cry every day, but over something beautiful, not because I’m depressed. I let myself exist in all my intensity, and that is good for my self-esteem.
Photo: Julien Faugere
THIRST FOR LIVE
Do you want children?
I do not know. I would like to do a 30-day trial period, but that’s not possible! I’m not the one who absolutely wants to have children. Even the idea terrifies me. However, when I was younger, I wanted it. But when I’m old enough to have them, I see my friends who have them and I find it traumatic. It’s a lifelong contract and, right now, I want to be free. I’ve been in a relationship for a long time and it seems like I don’t want to be attached at the moment. I like taking care of the people around me, but I don’t know if I want such a lifelong commitment to a little being.
Do you have an ideal couple?
I haven’t met the man with a capital H or the woman with a capital F, it seems, and I’m not convinced that I’m monogamous either. I have a hard time explaining why we can have several friends in life, but we must have only one lover at a time. Why put the pressure on a single partner to meet all our needs? I think that’s a lot to ask of someone. I believe in love, but not in shackles.
What is keeping you busy at the moment?
I had the chance to star in the series One Way: Survive. It was a beautiful role. There is also the show Two men in gold and Rosalie who is back. It’s already my fourth year in animation, so I’m a little more in my stride. I am currently filming the series Everyone gets dressed, a new magazine on social movements seen through the lens of clothing.
Tell me about the film Villeneuve, on the life of Gilles Villeneuve. What is it like playing his wife, Joann?
It’s exciting, but it’s also terrifying because people are waiting for it. Above all, I must not let myself be distracted by the fact that Joann herself will probably go see the film. This is the kind of role I had on my list, but later in my career, not at the beginning. So I’m losing it a little. But I am grateful. I am working very hard to prepare for this role and I can’t wait to shoot.
One Way: SurviveWednesday 8 p.m., in Noovo.
Two men in gold and Rosalie, Friday 8 p.m., on Télé-Québec.
Everyone gets dressed will be broadcast on Télé-Québec in January 2024.
The release of the film Villeneuve is planned for 2025.
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