2023-07-16 07:08:07
We live in a society that teaches us to be good people, but rarely explains to us what it really consists of. Many times, we grow up putting our own needs aside and prioritizing those of others, constantly seeking the approval of others instead of feeling comfortable with ourselves. But what happens when we find ourselves in situations where we don’t want to say “yes” but find it hard to say “no”?
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The renowned Spanish psychologist Tomás Navarro offers us a transformative perspective in his latest book, Your Red Lines. Through a series of simple exercises and basic notions of psychology, Navarro invites us to understand that our needs are important and that we must take care of ourselves. The book seeks to teach us how to set healthy boundaries and walk away from toxic people who only cause us pain.
First of all, the author highlights the importance of strengthening our self-esteem and self-respect. He encourages us to stop sabotaging ourselves and to be picky about how we treat ourselves to others. He recognizes that many times we tend to normalize painful situations, but we must remember that it is not wrong to demand respectful and dignified treatment.
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Likewise, Navarro introduces us to the concept of proportional assertiveness, which consists of communicating our needs and limits in a balanced way. He invites us to find the balance between expressing our opinions and respecting those of others, without allowing them to take advantage of our goodwill.
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The book also addresses self-care as a key element in setting healthy boundaries. It is paradoxical that many people take care of others, but neglect their own well-being. Navarro reminds us that taking care of ourselves is not selfish, but a fundamental need to maintain our health and emotional balance.
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The author emphasizes the importance of putting up barriers when necessary and, in more extreme situations, defending ourselves against those who attack us emotionally. He acknowledges that sometimes it’s hard to identify the toxic people in our lives, but stresses the importance of paying attention to the emotional footprint they leave and not ignoring the pain they cause us.
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Navarro not only focuses on the importance of setting individual limits, but also on their application from childhood. He stresses the need to treat children as people and allow them to make decisions within certain age-appropriate limits. In this way, they are taught early on to respect their own needs and set healthy boundaries in their relationships.
Your Red Lines is therefore a practical guide to learn how to set healthy boundaries, prioritize our needs, and stay away from toxic people who only cause us pain. Tomás Navarro’s book encourages us to abandon “goodism” and put our well-being first. Remember, setting limits is not selfish, it is a way to take care of ourselves and build more authentic and satisfying relationships.
♦ He is a renowned psychologist who has inspired readers around the world with his books, translated into more than thirty languages.
♦ Through his consultancy, he promotes the development and implementation of emotional well-being and resilience policies in companies. She also collaborates with numerous media outlets and gives talks on psychology, motivation, and resilience.
♦ He has successfully published Think Beautiful, Wabi-Sabi, Kintsukuroi, You Are Stronger Than You Think, and Emotional Strength. His works are a benchmark for psychologists and therapists, as well as for people who want to improve their quality of life.
♦ Currently, he divides his time between technical writing, training, consulting, conferences, and personal and professional counseling and coaching processes.
♦ He lives in the Pyrenees, where he does his skiing, climbing, pedaling and walking sessions.
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