The tiktoker who went viral by showing what the experience of traveling 12 hours on a bus with her young children was like spoke about the criticism she received on the social network.
After uploading the record, the woman began to receive multiple criticisms from other users who criticized her for how annoying it could be for the other passengers that the minors played on the seats and made noise. Due to this, the user accused a “Niñophobia”.
in conversation with BioBioChilethe protagonist of the video described as “That’s 12 hours on the bus with two children under 5 years old”, Maite Leturia, pointed out that inside the bus she did not notice or feel discomfort from the other passengers for traveling with her two children.
“Inside the bus, the truth is that I did not feel that child-phobia at any time, I never felt discriminated against or anything,” he said.
“It was on Tiktok that I received super violent and aggressive comments. For example, there were people who said that they had called the police to get a fine and get me off, others said that they had beaten me “he added.
“There were also people who told me that I should have medicated the children before putting them on the bus. There was even talk of clonazepam, ”she said.
In turn, Maite explained that there were those who advised her to buy a video game for her children, an idea that she strongly opposes. “I don’t put a screen on my children under any circumstances because I understand the damage it causes them”he emphasized.
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In this sense, he affirmed that he was struck by “the normalization of numbing children, who are not children, of trying to make them as adults as possible so that they do not bother. I don’t understand why they should bother if they are people just like us.”
“I think there are categories, one says ‘these are children and these are people’, when children are also people, they have the same rights. I asked, ‘what would have happened if I had gotten on the bus with a puppy or a kitten?’ Maybe I wouldn’t have had the same amount of funas. I believe that today animals are respected more than children”he pointed out.
The woman recalled other occasions in which she felt discriminated against, such as the time in a restaurant when they asked her to change tables because the person who was at a nearby table bothered that there were children.
“Vague mental education”
Carolina Alarcón, psychologist at Clínica Los Leones, explained to BioBioChile that there are adults who hate the behavior of children because, in general, “we are very little connected with our internal children, and also our psychoeducation, that is, the emotional education that we had, is very vague, therefore we do not know how to control ourselves , and when we see the lack of control of the rest, we respond in the way we were taught, that is, coercively”.
“Unfortunately, it is not healthy to have spaces free of children, because boys and girls are part of life and childhood must be made visible. Clearly children must be set limits, especially if we are sharing a common space with adults, with the elderly, with women, with other people “he emphasized.
“But ultimately, if a child is crying because he is hot or tired because he has been standing for a long time, you have to try to be courteous because logically they have fewer emotional or physical resources than adults,” he said.
“When you talk about being tough with children, when someone says ‘I was super strict with my daughter,’ or they say ‘I was beaten and had super coercive measures like punishments and I’m super healthy,’ I don’t see mental health there”, he concluded.