2023-12-20 06:04:37
Dirty dishes in front of the kitchen sink. Source: spm
We are not born a mother, we become one!
Over the years, education methods evolve with changes in mentality, adapting to the new needs of modern society. Yes, gone are the days of the “housewife” who devotes herself entirely to her family and her home. In recent years, we have even witnessed the emergence of a new form of fatherhood: with the emancipation of women, “new fathers” are now becoming more involved in the education of their children and in household chores. fireplace. Even the role of the mother has transformed over time. Admittedly, modern moms are under immense pressure to “have it all” in life, including the perfect home, a successful career, a happy family, and children who want for nothing. But, it is often utopian, the reality is much less glorious. In reality, many mothers struggle to balance the enormous expectations placed on them, including being “perfect” in every way. Although moms have always been under pressure to do the right thing in every situation with their children, some say social media has made the situation worse.
Involve children in household chores
Natalie, her husband and her two children – Source: spm
But whether we want to continue the tradition of our grandmothers or take up the torch with a touch of modernity, there is no such thing as a “perfect mother”. Everyone does their best. And, some can stand out from the crowd. Like Natalie Sutherland, 32, a young mother from Aberdeenshire, Scotland. In the past, she felt pressured to live up to the stereotype of ” impeccable mother on all fronts “. But, she decided to follow her own beliefs and act according to her own maternal instinct as reported by the British media in 2022. Precisely, because she loves her children and has a great responsibility in their education, she decided to involve them at home in an unexpected way. His credo? Empower your two children early enough so that they can be independent and resourceful in life. As she says: “ There is no shame in involving them in household chores, such as washing dishes or tidying the house. “. Quite the contrary!
After all, in addition to being a mother and a housewife, the woman also has her career to manage, a social life, a husband, activities… So, although Natalie shares the domestic tasks with her husband, she has found a way to alleviate even more of his hard work at home. To balance the time she has, while managing her business with her husband Marcus, she decided to entrust a little responsibility to her two children. “ I sometimes feel guilty watching them do these tasks, but I think it is very important to teach our children these little things “, she said confidently.
An “imperfect” but authentic mother!
Natalie and her little daughter Lucy – Source: spm
Because she finds it difficult to approach motherhood in modern society, Natalie therefore prefers to educate her children by instilling them with values and principles. That we don’t always have to rely on others and that they are “old” enough to learn to tidy their rooms, wash their cutlery or do their laundry. Especially since she doesn’t hide it: she also has the right to rest after a long day! And seeing them participate at home is both a great satisfaction for them and a source of pride for their mother. Not only do they feel useful by helping their mother, but they also build a strong personality by gaining autonomy. Natalie therefore defines herself as “ an imperfect, but real mother » which shows itself as it really is.
Wash the dishes. Source: spm
Moreover, she did not hesitate to share her experience on the social platform TikTok, engaging many Internet users, even triggering a whole debate on this type of unconventional education. Some did not fail to disapprove of his method of operation, believing that it is not the role of children to “work” at home, while others strongly applaud his initiative. Natalie is not offended by negative reviews. She understands that her decision is very personal, but her lifestyle suits her that way. She therefore chose to show herself as a realistic mother, who needs time for herself and who, from time to time, refuses to clean up the messes caused by her children. On the contrary, she prefers to educate them by explaining to them that their mother will not always be behind them and that they are responsible for their actions. So yes, this may seem quite extreme to some, but for Natalie, it resonates as a small personal victory. She even feels proud today of having educated her children in this way, especially her eldest daughter, Lucy, aged 12. She taught him how to do laundry and wash dirty dishes. Of course, as it’s quite a laborious chore, the little girl sometimes grimaces and balks in her corner, but ultimately she accomplishes her mission. And, it’s a winning bet for his mother!
Because there are too many spoiled and lazy children who spend their time hanging out on social networks, Natalie decided to do something about it. There is no question of his people being idle or lazy, vampirized by the culture of emptiness. She resolved to involve them from their earliest childhood so that they become responsible and knowledgeable adults. Of course, every mother has her own way of raising her children, and there is no right or wrong way. But, it must be admitted that Natalie’s style is rather interesting, even avant-garde. Teaching your children to provide for their own needs at home, while acquiring the family spirit and supporting their mother…is not Isn’t that a nice life lesson?
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