The father called his son to go to school as usual, but the child’s body was already cold.
Spanking children with caning is a form of punishment that many child experts oppose because it is a form of abuse that affects children’s health. However, there are also many parents who believe that hitting their children’s buttocks is less harmful to health, so when angry, they can be “straight”. And that is a misconception that has taken the life of a boy in China for many years, but still makes everyone feel sad when repeating it as a great lesson.
According to the share, when he learned that his son was disobedient in kindergarten, even at the risk of being expelled from school, Mr. Giang – a single father in Xuzhou (China) was extremely annoyed with using wooden sticks to beat him. into my butt. He hit the child so hard that the child resisted and ran away.
However, Mr. Giang got even more angry, continued to grab the child and beat his ass for 20 minutes. And that will probably be the thing that Giang regrets for the rest of his life because the next morning when he called his son to go to school, Mr. Giang discovered that the baby had passed away without warning, his body was frozen.
Many people think that a meaty butt when beaten can only hurt the buttocks without affecting any other body parts. Besides, the marks on the buttocks will be covered by pants, so they can be easily hidden. But perhaps the parents were wrong.
Firstly, in recent years, studies have shown that spanking does not help children learn well, but on the contrary, it will cause children’s IQ to be lower and their behavior to become more rebellious. can increase crime rates in college and make them withdrawn.
Spanking damages the “brain”?
In general, spanking is not a big problem, but the key is that sometimes when parents are angry, when hitting their children, they can use too much force, some people even hold a hard object like wood to hit the child’s butt. This can easily cause a sudden impact on the baby’s bottom – transmitted through the spine to the joints can cause deformity of the entire skull – causing brain stem damage.
As mentioned above, sometimes when parents are too angry, the buttock skin area is prone to congestion under the skin, leading to localized hematoma, poor blood circulation and even necrosis under the skin.
As reported by the US “World Journal”, experts conducted a 4-year follow-up study of 1,510 children aged 2 to 9 years. Among 806 children aged 2 to 4 years old, the average IQ scores of those who were not physically punished were higher than those of other children who were often punished, often being beaten 5 points higher, while another group including 704 children from 5 to 9 years old with a difference of 28 points.
Although there is no direct evidence that children who are not beaten regularly will have a higher IQ than children who are beaten, it is easy to have a negative impact on children’s psychology.
Using BL methods such as spanking to educate extroverted children can easily make children rebellious, even make them imitate and use BL methods to solve problems. The BL method of educating shy children will make them less confident and full of disappointment, not conducive to the formation of a good personality for children.
According to Master La Linh Nga – Director of the Center for Research and Application of Psychological Science – Education, there are actually many methods of raising children today. There is a great book for parents called “Too Cruel, Very Loving”. That’s how parents can be tough and strict with their children but make them feel their love and care.
The “cruelty” here is not where we abuse or beat the child. It has a lot to do with us having to establish rules. Rules about how if you are not good, how you will be responsible, how you will be punished. If you do well, how will you be rewarded? That is also the way people still encourage.
When parents have a calm, resolute attitude and speak firmly and clearly. When there is no criticism, beating the child but always teaching the child to follow the commitments or regulations set, if the child violates it, it will be handled. I think that is always effective, both to make the child have behavioral changes, and to increase self-esteem and self-esteem.
In fact, in general today people still argue a lot about whether to hit or not to hit. Then many people make the point that it depends on the child, which method will be applied. There are still differences of opinion, but most of them are in favor of parenting experience. As for science, it is clear from the research evidence that hitting children will have long-term harm.
Children today are very sensitive and somewhat like Western children. That is, it is more aware of how right and wrong, it also recognizes reading and hearing from friends. And it also knows how it must be protected and what its rights are. Therefore, if the child continues to hit, the child will not accept it and will tend to resist.