My husband and I currently live and work in the city, 1 month ago, my father-in-law passed away suddenly. We rushed back home in the night and stayed for more than a week to take care of my father’s funeral. After 7 days of worship, I took my 6-year-old daughter to the city, I went to work and the children continued to go to school, my husband stayed in the countryside with my mother. Because his family is anchored, only he is a son. The mother-in-law was quite devastated because of the sudden departure of her father-in-law. So my husband plans to stay until she gets past this stage.
During this time, I bring my daughter back to my hometown every weekend for 2 days, both to have more people at home and to encourage the spirit of my mother-in-law.
2 days ago, her husband suddenly went to the city. He went up to resign and hand over the equipment back to the company. The husband said that he decided to go back to his hometown to find a job to be with his mother and take care of her. Now that my father is gone, I can’t leave her alone in that house. He wants me and my children to go home with him. I will apply for a job near my house, or at best stay at home for 1-2 years, he will try to earn money to pay for living expenses. And the daughter will apply to attend the village school.
I don’t want to go back to my hometown, I currently have a high-paying job, and my children are studying at a good school. When I got home, I couldn’t find a job. We also struggled forever to buy a decent house in the city, now leaving everything to go home, I am not satisfied. Besides, my mother-in-law and I don’t get along. When I was first married, I was suffocating at the same time, now living together for the rest of my life, I definitely can’t stand it. So I object to my husband’s opinion. I even thought that if my husband still tried to force me to go back to my hometown, I would get a divorce. When I said that, my husband frowned and scolded me: “You are so scary, now that your father is no more, can you bear to look at your mother alone in the countryside? If she is sick, who will take care of her? Who will take care of her at night? taken to the hospital?”
I really don’t know if I should continue to persist in staying in the city, the husband and wife split up or just follow him back to his hometown and then continue?