Dealing with a Husband’s Refusal to Help with Our Child: My Story and Reader Opinions

2023-10-23 16:12:59

I would like to share my story about how my husband refuses to help me with our small child. We were together for 2.5 years. Then he went to work in the north. When he returned a year later, he admitted that he had cheated on me. I loved Lesha very much, so I forgave her. Although this was given to me with great difficulty. Let’s just say that my feminine self-esteem suffered greatly.

Just at this time I met a man. We met several times, but then broke up. Just then I found out that I was expecting a baby. There was no sex with that man, I am 500% sure that the father of the child is my young man.

We got married. Everything was going well. Then someone I knew told my husband about that man. A quarrel arose between us. I told him that I had never had sex with other men. But my husband didn’t believe me.

The husband reacted very indifferently to the birth of his daughter. He just gave me some terrible bouquet of flowers and that’s it. Now he doesn’t even pick up the baby. He constantly peers at her appearance, reproaches me for not being like him. I’m confused. She said let him do a DNA test if he has extra money. I am perfectly sure that the daughter is his. However, my husband does not take my words seriously.

My husband spends a lot of time with his friends. When I ask him for help, he suggests calling my mom. He also gives little money. He says that I have good benefits and that they are enough for a child.

I don’t know what to do – divorce or forgive? He was the first to betray me. I didn’t have sex with that man. I don’t think I cheated on him. However, the husband is not bowed down. With his grievances against me, he simply poisons my life. A week ago, the husband showed complete indifference to his daughter. The baby contracted whooping cough from her cousin (her husband’s niece). The child coughed terribly and had a high fever for two weeks. Every now and then I called an ambulance and doctors to the house… And my husband didn’t even take my daughter in his arms, although I asked him to rock the baby.

My daughter was in intensive care for a couple of days. Doctors did not rule out death. I called my husband and cried into the phone. And he just remained silent or said: “What can I do specifically in this situation?” I hoped that when we were discharged from the hospital, he would devote more time to his daughter. But it was not there. He doesn’t care at all.

Only when I packed my things and wanted to go to my parents did he not let me go. The rest is just reproaches and complete indifference. He doesn’t want to do a DNA test, he’s sorry for the money. He says that time will tell whose daughter this is… I can’t imagine how to live with him under the same roof.

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