Definition: what is the sexual position of the lotus?
The lotus position is a sensual position Kamasutra which favors a sexual act under conditions of perfect osmosis. Lovers face each other, they are skin against skin, pelvis against pelvis, the pace is slowing down. This posture is also called “fusion”, because of this embrace of both the upper and lower bodies of the two partners.
Milène Leroy, sexologist: The attachment link is so strong that we are almost on something spiritual in the exchange, the senses are solicited (sight, touch, hearing…) there is relaxation, release and release.
Lotus position in love, how to succeed?
The man sits in the lotus position or cross-legged, if the first version is too acrobatic. His partner moved in front of him, on his thighs. She can hug him with her legs around the waist and hook her feet behind his back.
When both partners are well hung, they can then gently let themselves rock back and forth; the woman wraps her arms around the man’s neck or places his hands on his shoulders, while he wraps his arms around her hips.
“The classic premises of envy, consent, respective lubrication must of course be respected before embarking on this position”, recalls the sexologist.
Where to practice it?
The most pleasant will be to practice the posture on something comfortable (bed, sofa, etc.), because the woman who is going to come sit on the hips of his partner will generate by his movements a rather substantial support. “It can be useful to use small cushions for both women and men”, adds Milène Leroy.
Its variants
“Using the laws of the body (muscle tone, breathing, space, rhythm and pressure), partners can modulate the degree of arousal and sexual pleasure throughout intercourse.
Pour more rhythmic sexual activity, the two partners can for example take off a little at the level of the bodies: the woman will put her hands at the back of her pelvis in order to allow the man to have more latitude concerning the degree of penetration and the sensations felt .
For a deeper penetration, the woman can also play with the opening of her legs or change support, passing on the knees.
Why practice the lotus position? Its benefits
The lotus posture brings more intimacy to the couple. It allows partners to make love eye to eye, to multiply the caresses and fill up with kisses and languid looks so that the act is even more beautiful and more intense.
The lotus also enables man to penetrate the woman deeply and therefore to offer her vaginal orgasm more easily. “The woman can control both the angle of penetration and the speed of the back and forth movements in this position, which is particularly important for those who have difficulty reaching orgasm par stimulation vaginale usually“, details the sexology practitioner.
This original sexual position also allows the couple to make time. “The lotus is particularly suitable for adept couples you slow sexthat is to say the gradual rise of excitement and pleasure, because the movements are slow.”
The lotus is also explore one’s sexuality as a whole : “All parts of the body, including the erogenous zones, are within easy reach of both partners: ears, ankles… And if the woman is the one who leads the dance more in this position, the man will appreciate being able to watch his partner cum , especially since he has access to his chest, his buttocks and his clitoris”, continues Milène Leroy.
Prerequisites and contraindications related to posture
While the lotus posture is simple to understand visually, in practice it is not so simple.
Flexibility, essential to the lotus position
A certain hip and leg flexibility on the part of the partners is required so that the bodies can interlock easily, one with the other: “The lotus position is better suited to those who practice an activity similar to yoga than to those who are very muscular (rugby player, athlete…) for example. If you are not flexible, there is no need to force yourself…, sexual performance will be limiting in terms of sensations and sexual pleasure”, warns the sexologist. If it is the performance that interests you, we cannot advise you to adopt the position of the Spider: “It takes its name from the figure that the two bodies form once anchored in each other.” And better be warned, it requires certain physical skills!
Lotus pose: not the easiest for pregnancy
The lotus position is rather not recommended at a certain stage of pregnancy. Indeed, the belly is uncomfortable, while the back and neck are already sufficiently strained with this change in the body, the breasts (often painful) can suffer from unpleasant friction with the contact of the partner.
Morphology and anatomy
“The idea being to seek sexual pleasure, some people with curves may have more difficulty than others in achieving the lotus. Certain sexual dysfunctions or having a small penis will not help either. to flourish in a beautiful lotus”, nuance Milène Leroy.
Protect yourself from STIs
As part of a non-exclusive relationship, the condom will be required to protect against STIs (sexually transmitted infections).
Lotus posture and BDSM, is it compatible?
“Insofar as the lotus is a very complicit position, of equality and even equity between the partners, it will hardly be compatible with what refers to BDSM (Bondage – Domination – Submission / Sadism – Masochism). The submission-domination aspect (even if it’s more the woman who will decide) and the pleasure/pain combo don’t really make sense here”, explains the sexologist.
As you will have understood, to succeed in a flourishing lotus, it is above all the osmosis that prevails. Exchange glances, vary the pace and above all be comfortable in the posture. In the same idea of tenderness, you can also indulge in the Amazon and the little spoon.