Health Issues in Marriage: Navigating Illness and Caregiving

2023-11-12 18:24:27

Roma and I got married in 2020. Our wedding happened to be in quarantine due to the coronavirus. A couple of days after the celebration, both became seriously ill and ended up in intensive care. I recovered quickly, and he spent a month on a ventilator.

Afterwards we got sick with Covid more than once. My health has suffered greatly from this misfortune. Previously, I caught the virus once every 5 years. For example, I have only had the flu 3 times in my life. But after Covid, the immune system began to work worse. On top of everything, I have a new boss who is not known for her health or cleanliness. She never goes on sick leave and works with a high fever. Moreover, throughout her illness she has only one handkerchief, which she uses to blow her nose and open the doors of our offices…

I used to not pay attention to the fact that my husband throws me out of the bedroom every time I have a fever or runny nose. And the day before yesterday I had a slight fever and snot started flowing in a stream. Got sick last night. I woke up at 2 o’clock from my husband pushing me in the side and saying: “Take a pillow and go to the living room. Don’t give a damn about me breathing your bacilli.”

It seems like nothing criminal, but it’s unpleasant. I lay there for two days, and he didn’t even bring me a glass of water. When I wrote and asked to make tea with lemon, he replied that she should get up, put on a mask and make the drink herself. But when he is sick, he never leaves the bedroom, and I always take care of him.

There was an incident at the beginning of this year. We both got the flu. We were prescribed an antibiotic. The doctor advised me to buy an original Western drug, because… he’s stronger. We went to the pharmacy near the clinic. There was only one pack of medicine there. I thought we’d buy it, start drinking together, and then bribe it. But my husband did not allow it. He paid for the antibiotic himself and told me to go to another pharmacy. I felt bad, the temperature was around 39 degrees. I didn’t have the strength to go, so I bought myself a cheap analogue. My husband recovered from the disease faster than me, apparently the medicine is much better. But I was sick for a week more and developed a complication on my kidneys. I always remember this incident and cannot forgive my husband. He behaved, to put it mildly, not nicely. I would never do that to him. I could take it to the pharmacy to find a pack of the original drug. But the husband refused.

Today I also asked him to buy me an antibiotic. He didn’t refuse. But I came home without medicine. He said that there are no pharmacies near the house. And when I suggested going to other pharmacies and looking, he announced: “Call a taxi and ride around the city.”

Otherwise he treats me well. But as far as health issues are concerned, everything is bad here. Am I picking on him or not? Am I really asking too much?

The section “Readers’ Opinions” publishes materials from readers.

1699821017
#husband #kicks #room #cold #flu #bought #antibiotic

Leave a Comment

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.